Sure, you're going to shut a few people, but since you're off people who do not want is a little more in reality. At some point early in the proceedings in a phone call or first date, it is essential to ask the question great indifference in the conversation. Just be relaxed and not treat the whole thing as the Inquisition – men, especially, hate to be "Inquisition." Tell me about the kind of relationship you are looking for at this time? "(Oh my God, how do I ask?'ll think want to get married on the first date!) If you get nervous, just explain that, despite his good body looking extremely sexy, Rolex watch and bursting bank account, you do not want to marry them, however, only wants to know if are in the idea, in general, ie be in a committed relationship if you met someone with all the boxes marked? Then, if they really say they are interested in having a committed relationship with the right person to ask? "The relationship Why do you want to commit? What is the objective of a committed relationship for you "As coach, I'm not often a fan of 'Why?.? Questions, but this situation can be very useful for two reasons. First, you can be a great way to decide whether the potential partner is saying things that sound good (ie lying, so they can come to seem a good person who just wants decent good, decent committed relationships when in fact they want another date, or take you to the bed)?.